Are you trying to think of a way to include a special moment in your wedding ceremony to honour your mums? How about Last Kiss before the First Kiss?
After you have made your wedding vows and exchanged wedding rings, just before the pronouncement and your First Kiss as a married couple, your Celebrant invites your mums to come forward and stand next to you, and (guided by your Celebrant) you give your mum a kiss - or you could go over to your mums (either way it makes for great photographs).
(Image by Anna Hardy Photography)
The following is an example of words that could be used. In this case it is for two grooms and although it is loving, it is fairly formal. However, it doesn't have to be this formal. The words would be written to suit you and reflect your personalities and of course, it isn't limited to birth mums (or any mums) these suggestions are just for the purposes of this blog!
"And now Ladies and Gentlemen, it is time for _______ and _______'s last kiss before they are pronounced as husbands together.
___ and his mother, ___ and ___ and his mother ___, will now offer this kiss.
These mother's lips were the first to kiss them after they gave them life and brought them into this world. And today, a mother's love - together with their blessings - will be first to send them on their way to their new life together.
Mums. . . please kiss your sons!
Thank you ladies, please be seated.
And now, _____ and ______ it is my privilege and pleasure to announce to you, your families and your friends, that you are husband and husband together, would you like to seal this moment with a kiss?"
Kissing the mums at this point of the wedding ceremony is quite often combined with the symbolic act of giving a rose (or any other flower or gift that you wish).
This is an extract from a less formal wedding that took place in the garden of Anna's parents. Originally, the couple were going to cut two stems from a rose bush in the garden, but there had been a lot of wind and rain the night before and the petals had bruised - so we went with the contingency plan of taking two roses from Anna's bouquet (in case you hadn't guessed, the couple's first kiss happened when Georgie was a little hungover - this was included in the love story that was told earlier in the ceremony) :
"In a moment, I will invite you to share a kiss, often called the ‘first kiss’.
But, of course, it isn’t your first kiss. Even the first kiss that you shared when Georgie had a huge headache and was surrounded by the aroma of Jack Daniels, wasn’t your first kiss. Your very first kiss was from your mum, on the day that you were born. Is that right Wendy and Elaine?
So, before I ask you if you would like us to all witness your first kiss as a married couple, please take a rose each, from Anna's bouquet. Anna and Georgie please give your mum the flower that you have in your hand. Now, can you please both kiss your mum and your mum-in-law, to thank them for everything that they have done since they brought you, and their child, the love of your life, into this world.
Excellent! Now, how about that Mrs and Mrs kiss?"
If you would like to include this, or any other symbolic element, to personalise your ceremony, speak to your Celebrant (who will hopefully be me!) who will be delighted to work with you to ensure that you have exactly the ceremony that you want.
And here is a beautiful reading that you may not have seen, or heard, before (the last word of the penultimate line can, of course, be changed to wife)...
I Am Love
Some say I can fly on the wind, yet I haven’t any wings.
Some have found me floating on the open sea, yet I cannot swim.
Some have felt my warmth on cold nights, yet I have no flame.
And though you cannot see me, I lay between two lovers at the hearth of fireplaces.
I am the twinkle in a child’s eyes.
I am hidden in the lines of your mother’s face.
I am your father’s shield as he guards your home.
Some say I am stronger than steel, yet I am as fragile as a tear.
Some have never searched for me, yet I am around them always.
Some say I die with loss, yet I am endless.
And though you cannot hear me, I dance on the laughter of children.
I am woven into the whispers of passion.
I am in the blessings of Grandmothers.
I embrace the cries of newborn babies.
Some say I am a flower, yet I am also the seed.
Some have little faith in me, yet I will always believe in them.
Some say I cannot cure the ill, yet I nourish the soul.
And though you cannot touch me, I am the gentle hand of the kind.
I am the fingertips that caress your cheek at night.
I am your husband.
I am love.
Hi, I am Lorraine Hull, an award-winning Celebrant, based in Liverpool.
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