There are many ways of adding elements to your wedding ceremony, to make it personal to you. When you have a Celebrant led ceremony, you have a lot more scope for for adding, personal and personalised extra touches. Some of the special elements focus solely on the couple; others include parents, elders, children or other guests.
Tea ceremonies originate in China and the Far East and are still fairly rare in Western weddings. There are plenty of references to the tea ceremony online and it can take many forms. What each of the variations have in common is, that it is symbolic of the couple showing respect to their elders. It is also a lovely way for the guests to wish good luck to the couple and express their hopes for the future - similar to ring blessing, or promise ribbon, in many ways.
It is quite simple to incorporate a tea ceremony into a Western wedding. The tea is served to the parents, or elders, by the bride and groom (or the two brides or two grooms, of course). It's only symbolic so use decorative small cups, not giant mugs!
To keep some of the Chinese symbolism, it is a good idea to have red cups (or at least include something red) this is for good luck.
The tea should be sweet - for a sweet life.
It should be poured by a female guest who has had children (not one of the mothers or a bride) who is respected and seen to have had a happy marriage - this is for fertility and happiness.
The couple then pass the tea cups to their parents, or close elder family members. They serve two cups to each other's family.
I had the privilege of leading the wedding ceremony for this lovely couple. The bride was born in Malaysia and the groom was originally from Greater Manchester. They met in Melbourne, Australia, where they now live, but the two families celebrated in the magnificent Lowry Hotel, Manchester - it was a surprise for the parents of the groom!
At the end of the wedding ceremony, they held a tea ceremony. The tea set was brought, from Malaysia, by the bride's mum. She had been given it as a gift over fifty years ago and it had deep significance within the family.
It was very beautiful and emotional to watch (I had tears in my eyes!) it was almost like an elegantly choreographed dance.
After the bride and groom had served tea to their parents the groom's young nieces served the final two cups to to the happy couple - and afterwards the girls were delighted to receive a red envelope with a special gift!
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